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If you are exploring homeschooling or are already within your first few years of teaching your children at home, you are in the right place. Many parents today feel a bit overwhelmed by the sheer number of choices, opinions, and expectations surrounding home education. Here, each week, my goal is to slow things down and help you think clearly, build stability, confidence, and thoughtful learning environments for you and your children.
This is a place where things will begin to make sense.
This Week: From the Desk of Denise
The First Three Years of Homeschooling
Part 2: The Filter and the Sequence
Greetings!
Welcome to From the Desk of Denise. If you are new here, I am so glad you have joined us! Over the past two weeks, we have been exploring The First Three Years of Homeschooling, beginning with Strategic Confusion and moving into The Filter and the Sequence—two ideas that help parents organize the many decisions involved in starting a homeschool.
Next Friday, we will conclude the series with Part 3: Stabilizing the Homeschool, as part of this year’s larger theme, The Year of Parent Preparation for Homeschooling. If you are joining us mid-series, you are arriving at the perfect moment to think through how strong preparation can shape the early years of homeschooling. So much so, there is an assignment for you at the end. Happy learning! Denise, Founder.
If the first year of homeschooling could be described in one word, I think it would be confusion. Not because learning wasn’t happening. But because I had not yet developed a way to decide what mattered most. Agree?
Like many new homeschooling parents, I was surrounded by advice. Curriculum catalogs arrived in the mail. Experienced homeschool parents generously shared what had worked for them. Random discussions were filled with passionate and often fear-for-my-children-driven recommendations.
- Everyone seemed to want me to have a system.
- What I did not yet realize was that my homeschool needed a built-in filter.
- A way of deciding what belongs in our home — and what does not.
During our second year of homeschooling, I began to understand that I needed something more than enthusiasm and determination. I needed a clear way to evaluate educational choices before bringing them into our daily routine.
Without a filter, everything looks important.
- Every curriculum vendor promises results, outcomes, fun, and freedom.
- Every subject (given by state and local monitoring services) seems urgent.
- Every activity appears beneficial: seminars, conferences, support groups.
But, a homeschool cannot thrive if everything is treated as equally necessary, right?
The turning point came when I began asking a different question.
Instead of asking: What should my children learn next?
I began asking a different kind of question:
What kind of learners do I want my children to become?
How do I encourage curiosity → sincere interest → questioning → reading → writing?
That Question Changed Everything
It allowed me to begin creating what I now call the sequence. The sequence is simply the order in which learning becomes meaningful for a child. Before advanced subjects can flourish, certain foundations must be strong.
Children must first learn how to:
• focus their attention
• follow multi-step instructions
• ask thoughtful questions
• listen carefully
• work independently for increasing periods of time
These abilities are rarely listed in curriculum catalogs, yet they determine whether learning will actually take root.
Second Year
During that second year, I began quietly restructuring our days. Less rushing. More observation. Less pressure to “cover everything.” More time developing the habits that make learning possible.
What I slowly began to understand was this: education does not begin with subjects. Education begins with children developing the habits of attention, curiosity, and perseverance. When those habits are present, academic learning can accelerate naturally.
So instead of focusing first on completing assignments, I began focusing on something else entirely—developing a culture of learning inside our home.
In that kind of environment, questions become normal. Children are free to notice what is around them and ask about it. Throughout the day, I regularly heard things like:
“What’s that?”
“What does that mean?”
“Why does that happen?”
Questions were not interruptions to learning. They were the beginning of learning.
I often responded with simple if–then questions that encouraged my children to think a little further:
- “If that is true, then what might happen next?”
- “If that works that way, then why do you think it does?”
But there was another important realization during this time.
If I wanted my children to become curious learners, I had to model curiosity first. I had to learn how to observe, ask questions, and think out loud in front of them. In many ways, I had to learn how to learn again before I could teach them how to do it.
By the time we reached our third year of homeschooling, something important had happened inside our home.
The confusion had begun to settle.
Not because I had finally discovered the perfect curriculum.
But because we had begun to understand how learning could actually happen in our home.
A Parent's Plea From the Field
A Parent (verbatim):
"J. Catherine: HELP ME WITH EVERY SINGLE THING!"
At first glance, this kind of request may sound dramatic, but in reality, it is one of the most honest requests a new homeschool parent can ask.
Most parents do not need help with everything.
What they actually need is help sorting everything.
When a parent enters homeschooling, dozens of questions arrive at once:
- What curriculum should I buy?
- How do I organize our day?
- What records do I need to keep?
- How do I manage my home and still teach?
Without a structure, these questions pile up until they feel impossible to solve.
Let's take a peek at J. Catherine through the lens of the Parent-to-Teacher curriculum, shall we?
- Home Preparation – Is her household ready to support learning?
- Parent Preparation – Does she have a clear vision, confidence, and expectations about home education?
- School Preparation – What learning materials and teaching methods will she use?
- Record-Keeping Preparation – How will progress be documented in her home?
Once questions are placed into the correct category, the next step becomes clear.
The chaos becomes a sequence.
Which Prep Series (and Why) would work for J. Catherine?
Prep Category: Parent Preparation
This request belongs in Parent Prep because the core issue is not curriculum, scheduling, or record-keeping.
The real issue is overwhelm.
Before parents can make effective decisions about homeschooling, they must first regain clarity about:
- why they are homeschooling
- what their priorities are
- what problems actually need to be solved first
Parent Preparation is the stage where we calm the noise and restore leadership in the home. Every home is different, and every parent responds differently to the "shoulds" around them. The academy sees that and sees the parent, hence, the multiple "prep" areas.
An Assignment for You: If you are feeling like Jessica did, try this simple exercise.
Step 1 — Brain Dump (10 minutes)
Write down every homeschool concern currently on your mind.
Do not organize it.
Do not judge it.
Simply get it out of your head and onto paper.
Most parents list between 15 and 40 concerns.
Step 2 — Sort Into the Four Prep Areas
Next, label each item as one of the following:
- H — Home
- P — Parent
- S — School
- R — Records
For example: Concern then the Category
- The house is always messy - Home
- I don't know if I can teach - Parent
- Which math program should we use? - School
- What records do I need for the state? - Records
You will quickly see that most problems fall into one or two categories, not all four.
Step 3 — Choose One Area to Work On First
Instead of solving everything, choose one preparation area to begin.
That is the start of your sequence.
When parents follow this process, overwhelm often drops dramatically within a single afternoon. Calmness and moments to breathe replace panic. And homeschooling begins to feel possible again.
Checklist: The Overwhelm Sorting Checklist
☐ I completed a full homeschool brain dump
☐ I sorted each concern into Home, Parent, School, or Records
☐ I identified which category contains the most concerns
☐ I selected one category to focus on first
☐ I created a simple first step for that category
☐ I scheduled time this week to begin
Helpful?
Next week, let's talk about what happened during that third year — the moment when our homeschool began to stabilize, and the systems I built started to support us instead of overwhelming me.
Coming Next Friday: From the Desk of Denise
Theme: "The First Three Years of Homeschooling"
A Sneak Peek into Next Friday
Next Friday, we will close this short series with a topic many homeschool parents only discover through experience. At some point, every homeschool reaches a moment when the early excitement begins to settle—and parents start wondering if what they are doing is actually working.
This is the stage I call stabilizing the homeschool.
It is the moment when families move from experimenting with homeschooling to building a rhythm that can support learning for years to come. And surprisingly, stability rarely comes from adding more curriculum.
It comes from strengthening the home → parent → school → records sequence we discussed in the previous articles.
Next Friday, we will talk about how that transition happens—and why the third year of homeschooling often becomes the turning point for many families.
The First Three Years of Homeschooling series
Part 1: Strategic Confusion
Part 2: The Filter and the Sequence
Part 3: Stabilizing the Homeschool
A small “hmmm… let me think about that” series.
Until then,
Denise
P.S. If you know a homeschool mom who is feeling overwhelmed, feel free to share the newsletter with her. A little quiet confidence the right moment can make all the difference.
Until then,
Denise
Educationally, Dr. Denise Perdue Founder, Alinea-Home Parent-to-Teacher Academy for Homeschooling
